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  1. Having empathy is great, but when you start internalizing what others are feeling - you don't need that. I'm similar too, but probably for different reasons. Usually if I'm sensitive to someone else's emotions, it's because I am worried how they are feeling and then take it upon myself to help them. I am learning not read into people's negative emotions and understand it isn't necessarily about me. I to remind myself to not take it personally (it's not about me) and therefore not worry about it. Then it's easier not to take responsibility in trying to understand that person and just let them be. It's very hard.. are you like this with everyone or just people you extremely care about? I'm working on this with my husband for instance - it's great like you said, we can easily influence each other's happiness, but if one of us is down from something external like work, it's hard for the other person not to be sensitive to it and feel down by it.
  2. Hildegard, I want to practice with you! It's been hard to appreciate those "milliseconds" - feeling that lightness, no matter how brief, is amazing on its own. Now I can appreciate it as progress without achieving the full pose yet.
  3. Jewelry taste is highly subjective and personal, so you would know best as her friend. I personally don't prefer the medallion style, but it would still be a nice gift.
  4. Apologies, this is a rather personal question! I just saw how nice some yoga pants look on other people, and am wondering what their secret is! I wanted to know what everyone likes to wear underneath tight yoga pants. I don't like thongs, so I am trying to figure out how to avoid panty lines, or if I should just suck it up and get used to wearing thongs (if that is what most people do). I have switched to seamless and moved up a size for underwear, and then the waistband became too loose! Do I just have a huge butt for my frame, or have I been wearing the wrong underwear sizes this whole time?
  5. Good luck on your teacher training! This is so interesting, I'm curious to hear other thoughts on this, too. I actually learned this leg variation for a side stretch, intentional so we can grab the back foot for leverage in a Forrest yoga class. I was so excited to learn this pose because it gave me such a deep neck stretch, so I took a picture to share here. Please note though my upper body form is off - I am too collapsed in this picture because I discovered later that this also meant as a heart opener. I shouldn't have my forearm on the ground, be higher up, so my chest is farther back and open. I think the concern is similar with lotus - for those whose hips are open enough, it won't cause knee issues. But if you are forcing yourself into that position, it probably will risk compromising the knee. For what I understand, some parts of Forrest were based on Iyengar. But based on reading her book, Ana Forrest is a free thinker and has made some very unique variations that could be controversial, such as this back leg bent.
  6. I only suggested those for cosmetic map reasons and have no connections there. You give good suggestions though for those who want Candace to come to his or her hometown! I've been struggling on thinking of a receptive venue locally, so I am not seriously asking for more stops.
  7. Honestly, I thought that meant whatever I wanted for that moment when I first heard that. Now that I think more about it, my interpretation is that it is a tool to reinforce yoga's definition of union - a sound originating from within and then resonating externally with the rest of the universe. What does it mean to you?
  8. Nice map addition! Maybe Candace should add Seattle or Vancouver just to make a bigger rectangle.
  9. Don't worry, you're not alone! I am actually quite pleased how strong our legs have gotten from yoga, too. I think classes do focus on legs a lot to stretch out our hip flexors because most of us sit and work all day. I used to have some knee issues when I walked, but building up my quad strength in those deep lunges have helped. Anyway, I've been practicing for 5 years and still can't do bakasana let alone any "more advanced arm balances". But, I did find myself closest to holding it when we practiced "turbo dogs" instead of downward dog each time we did a vinyasa. It forces you to squeeze your elbows together like holding a beach ball between your forearms. That engages the serratus anterior muscles (armpit muscles), which create a more stable "shelf" for arm balances. And I completely relate - if there are a lot of vinyasas in a class, I do modified chaturangas and low cobra since my chest gets tired, to prevent my wrists getting worn out, and so I don't get tired and lose my form. I think the nice thing about yoga is getting to know your body better, and each day is different. For inversions, I found myself able to do headstand after building more core strength, but, I am working on forearm stand to build those same armpit muscles. Working on dolphin has been helping me, after I get over the agony of holding it for more than a minute. I like to clasp my hands together in dolphin since my wrists are weak. Do you already do downward dog or forearm against the wall? When you form the proper right angle, it actually requires more strength building to hold it against the wall than it is to balance against the wall. Oh, and you might find other forum members' inputs helpful on arm balances in these other threads. Anahata and AnaTeresa provided some pretty good links on core strength: Watching Candace's 30 min strength and flexibility video helped Jasmine with her arm balances!
  10. I constantly sip some water during yoga class so I don't feel faint or lightheaded. I read the advice that one should eat about 2 hours before practice at least. I usually feel strongest when I go to my 6 pm class with lunch 4-5 hours beforehand. What do you normally eat? I can get faint and easily overexert myself if I don't have some carbs in the morning (e.g. I only had yogurt and banana, that wasn't enough and I had a fainting spell). It could also be some form of vertigo if it only happens to you during inverted poses. Your body might just be getting used to it.
  11. I really agree - yoga has helped me develop new coping skills. Breathing and learning how to observe and endure sensations and emotions that come up. Then she can be more comfortable sitting with her own emotions and not feel out of control. A lot of things I learned in yoga helped me understand things better that I was working on in therapy, so I really hope you can work out something such that she can keep coming to yoga. Maybe she might be interested in private yoga sessions? I think she's already aware about disturbing the other students - that's why she's asking about coping methods. Honestly, I would have hoped others would be more understanding and realize that yoga can release pent up emotions. Can you have a separate healing focused class or workshop so that participants that come know what they're signing up for, and understand working out emotions may be part of the class, therefore not being disturbed by it? On a different note, It really saddens me to hear that her therapist judged her like that. Finding the right therapist can take time, and she shouldn't give up.
  12. Sometimes the teacher gets excited to share more sequences so we run over class time. If we're lucky and there is no class after, she just asks if we can stay late and allows others that have to leave go out quietly. Other times the teacher will announce that we have an abbreviated savasana, and lay there for just a minute. I actually haven't had one where we've skipped completely though. I can understand your irritation since the teacher should be managing the time. Hopefully this is just a one-time thing. If it becomes frequent, then it might be worthwhile to mention your disappointment to the teacher so she makes more of an effort to fit in a proper savasana. Larry had a good suggestion - you should be free to do it yourself while others leave, but that's not feasible if there's a class right after (seems like the case, otherwise the teacher could have run over).
  13. Just thought I'd give an update... I just found it amazing how much my patience paid off from waiting until it felt right to take action. 6 months passed, and I recognized that I was still been avoiding my parents because of this issue. I finally had enough confidence to visit and tell them why I never wanted to see that person again. They understand my reasons and won't force me to have a relationship. I heard a lot of talk about setting boundaries before, but I never knew what that truly meant until now.
  14. This is myself thinking out loud here, especially since I've been stimulated after reading other people's experiences with "slumps". My teacher said at the end of class on Wednesday that we can treat our mats as a refuge. I thought that was an effective way to remember what my practice represents to me. It usually cultivates a feeling of contentment from within. So, why did I deny myself refuge for an entire month, finding solace instead by escaping via TV, sleeping in, forum browsing, and online shopping? Those were external factors that help distract, but what was I trying to avoid thinking about? I didn't truly acknowledge this until now, after reflecting on a conversation with my sister earlier this week. I have some issues going on that I didn't want to acknowledge as big deals. I reaffirmed my decision not to visit my parents over the holidays so I won't have to explain why I don't want to see or ever talk to a certain family member again. I speculated with my husband about changing to a different job role so I don't have spurts of high stress and deadlines that require me to work on holidays and weekends. I don't have the solutions to these issues, but now I'm ready to keep them in the back of my mind instead of escaping like before. That's not the same as being ready to face them (hence, I'm not actively seeking advice), but, I won't run away anymore. I shared details to avoid minimizing or exaggerating. Now I can sit with the truth and breathe through it, just like how I get reminded to breathe during my twisted lunges.
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  16. A lot of us struggle returning to our practice. For me it was hard because I shamed myself, but, realizing that everyone has the same struggles too helped inspire me. Have you tried restorative with lots of props? I took a class in a studio - only 3 poses, each held for 30 min (probably a more extreme version of restorative than other places). I was really overwhelmed and fell asleep in some, but, it helped me let go. This was the way I slowly got back into yoga after 3 months of being inactive with an injury and disliking how inactive I felt but not knowing what to do. You could have also lost weight from losing muscle mass from your inversion practice... so don't see it necessarily as indicators you are not taking care of yourself, but, just something that happens from the change in activity. I think you're still dealing with hypermobility, right? Just be careful to remain engaged in the muscles around your joints and not let completely loose if you do yin - the idea is to stay in a pose for 3-5 min to work out the ligaments that surround your joints. That part scares me since my joints are already loose, and I'm looking for more stability. Welcome back from Singapore!
  17. Good, glad your condition is in check then and you are managing it well. It just sounded more severe to me if you are modifying poses to avoid aggravating the area. Everyone's body is different, so I am glad you are finding something that works for you. Apologies for coming off too conservative or pushy about getting it checked. I realize now that I reacted strongly because of my history with my family regarding alternative medicine treatment and cancer (luckily things are stable now). I believe, like everything else, there needs to be a balance, with this situation being between alternative therapies and Western medicine. This isn't relevant to your situation (sounds like you are already doing this), so I'm just explaining why I reacted that way. For something that could be "fixed" instead of long-term managed with, the fix sounded attractive to me.
  18. 3 weeks is such a short time to address a chronic medical issue! And a 2 day recovery, too, so I second Larry's suggestion to get it repaired instead of trying to put it off. I had something bothering me for many years. Even though it took me a few months to fix it gradually, the result has changed my everyday life and has been completely worth it. Anyway, it sounds like your main intention is to help your body cleanse naturally (and possibly prevent a new hernia in the future or prevent straining). I don't know about that practice in particular (the drinking salty water reminds me of the prep people do for a colonoscopy, which does not sound fun), but let me suggest some other things to look into if you haven't already tried. Have you already tried experimenting with different vegetables or high fiber root vegetables? E.g. okra when eating it raw or sweet potatoes? There are some naturally based fiber supplements, such as magnesium supplements (can also help with bones and calcium absorption, but don't take it if you already have a low heart rate because it'll further relax your heart) or OTC fiber supplements that you can try out, too. The salty water seems abrasive to the body. Otherwise, maybe a local Ayurveda specialist will know about this practice (or have other ideas about diet to help you) and can also monitor your health.
  19. No, I don't believe in the "should" part. But I do I think there are great options for people to pursue a specific diet that complements with their yoga practice, such as Ayurveda or practicing vegetarianism or veganism as part of ahimsa. Disclosure: I did not change my diet, but I enjoyed learning about these concepts for a more holistic view of yoga.
  20. Oh, that's so beautiful and lovely that she read it there in front of you, too! Thanks for sharing the update!
  21. How does your back look like when you bend your knees in downward dog? I learned a nice lengthening technique for downward dog recently. When you do cat and cow pose, notice how cat pose rounds out your back by tucking in the tailbone (lengthening it) and cow pose creates a dip in the lower back when you push out your pubic bone (in front). Right now it sounds like you are rounding out too much like cat pose, so you need to push out (upward) your pubic bone (front of your pelvis) while in downward dog to straighten out your back to neutral. To do this, first bend your knees and create the curve (dip) in your lower back (like you do in cow pose), and then, slowly straighten your legs again by lengthening your tailbone upward to the sky (same movement as in cat pose). If you can't straighten your legs without rounding / arching out your back (like in cat pose), then keep the knees bent. This is a video that shows downward dog with bent knees to start out with a dip in the back and eventually straighten, depending on your flexibility.
  22. When I flip my hands from backs to facing front, I feel more tension along the outer edges of my hand from finger to wrist (which is why I rarely do this pose anymore). I suspect some wrist flexibility could help, too.
  23. Hey, I was just changing today, and thought about this... If men had to wear bras and reach their hands behind their back everyday since adolescence, then they could probably do this as easily as most women. So it's not just a natural disadvantage / advantage due to physical bodies but the daily expectations of habits or garments that our genders can impose on us, too.
  24. Sounds fun - has the belly dancing helped your nauli practice? I'm always amazed by people who can control all those muscles! I actually learned about this forum via a post on reddit, so I like to go there for specific topics. There is a useful link of belly dance resources on the right hand side here:
  25. @happyvibes How'd it go?